I support people to do what they love and be their best so that they make a real difference in the world. That’s who I am when I am at my best. That’s my why.
Everyone has a why. When we articulate our purpose and take steps each and every day to live and be that purpose, our lives change dramatically. No longer is our job or business just something that we do. There is a fire or passion within us because we know why we get out of bed in the morning and how we can be of service to others.
When we are in service to self only, we may experience moments of happiness. Happiness is a dopamine hit. It’s the feeling we get when we buy a new home, have dinner with a good friend, hug someone we love and so on. Happiness is real and yet it is fleeting.
Fulfillment A life-changing event happened when I was seventeen years old. I felt and experienced for the first time in my life that I could make an actual difference in the world. I could give and receive selflessly, having no agenda other than to help and be of service, and that changed me.
The experience opened the doors of my heart to a new way of being. This may sound dramatic and huge, even though the actual story may not seem like much to you. What happens on the outside is not always indicative of what it feels like on the inside. We give meaning to all kinds of things in our lives, and those meanings can support and uplift us or drag us down and keep us small.
It was a strange day weather wise. All of a sudden, it became very dark, still and quiet outside. It was a hot summer’s day, and nothing like this had ever happened before. I can remember standing next to my mother and looking outside through sliding glass doors that lead to the side of our back yard. We were oblivious to the dangers of being next to so much glass in such a moment.
is an oxytocin hit. It’s the high we feel when we help others, when we make a difference in someone else’s life, often in what appears to be small ways. It can be as simple as sharing a smile or as daring as rescuing children from a burning home. Fulfillment runs deep and is long lasting. It is a deep, heartfelt experience that does not leave us.
We can all remember moments when we selflessly helped someone else, and how that made us feel. When I was seventeen, a massive tornado hit my hometown. My house was spared, but homes a few blocks away were partially gone or leveled.
I remember going for a walk and knocking on a random home's door that had lost its roof, and asking the middle-aged woman who opened the door if she needed some help. She did. We spent the day packing dishes and other valuables into boxes.
This small experience was profound for me. For the first time, I felt like something I had done really mattered. I felt the joy of giving. My heart felt open and full. A seemingly small experience of selfless service opened me up in a profound way to acceptance, unconditional love and belonging.
Knowing our why is about service to other, and that opens us up to the abundance of the Universe.
Knowing and living our What, individually and collectively in business or as a part of any organization or group opens us up to being fulfilled and feeling successful. We can appear to be successful to the outside world without feeling successful inside.
Knowing and living our why and the organization’s / group's / team's / company's why that we are a part of opens us up to feeling successful and living a rich and fulling life. We feel successful when we know and live our why, when we know that 'it's not all about me; it's about the difference that I make in the world by being here'.
We can each become our own purpose expert and model that for others, helping them find and live their own unique why. Imagine how that would change the world!