Thursday, 21st of September 2017

Thursday, 21st of September 2017

Communication is key to success. It's not only what we say, it's how we say it and the space that we hold.

We know what it feels like when someone is angry, frustrated and unwilling to listen, fixed in their thoughts and unwilling to change or consider another point of view.

Whether we respond or react when facing adversity determines whether open communication is possible.  By holding an open, inviting space to share and exchange ideas, it is. 

When we don't judge someone because they see the world differently from us, when we simply listen with a genuine desire to learn, when that person feels understood and heard, doors can open and new possibilties arise. 

When we are closed and know that they are wrong and we are right, communication is not possible. We are in lockdown to anything innovative or inspirational happening.

Negotiation is one aspect of communication.  It can be approached as a means of discovering common ground and creating a win-win situation for all concerned.  Or, it can be approached as getting our ball across the goal line at any cost, without concern for other. 

Negotiating with appropriate boundaries while open to all possibilities is one key to success. This is about knowing our bottom line and being open to new ways of getting to our destination.

Most people simply need to be acknowledged and heard in order to work things out. 

Negotiating is an enjoyable experience, like a dance, when we are willing to listen and are open to what others have to share.  We don't have to agree with them or follow their lead.  We simply drop all expectations about who they are and what they are going to say and be with them.

Successful communicating, relating and negotiating is an artform. Many dismiss this artform in our techology-driven world.  And yet, communicating, relating and negotiating are key to successful team building, marketing, sales and growth.  Without affinity and a commonality of purpose, vision and goals, success is not possible. 

No one is an island.  We all need our allies, team, mastermind group, tribe, trusted employees, confidants and peers for prosperity and growth.  We need others that we can count on, people who have our backs and the talent and expertise to work together with us to keep moving forward. 

We can build bridges and open doors to greater affinity and comrady by making heartfelt communication and negotiation skills and tools an integral part of our lives.  There's no mystery to it.  It just takes daily practice, the willingness to expand our horizons and to learn from our mistakes.