Tuesday, 18th of December 2018

Tuesday, 18th of December 2018

Women are different than men -- we think and feel differently, and see our families, communities and the world differently.

And there is sameness. Men and women want to feel and be successful, want to feel love and be loved, and want to enjoy life.

The problem is that we allow ourselves to be placed into boxes. We find ourselves in a world that often doesn’t value what we bring to the table and holds biases against us simply for being women.

Men and women are different sides of the same coin. Each brings something unique and wondrous to the table, when done so selflessly and with unconditional positive regard for the other. Sadly, this is often not our experience.

And, we don’t have to let statistics, glass ceilings or biases define our reality.

The best movements for change start within, with how we experience and treat ourselves, with our feelings of self-worth and confidence, with our self-determination, tenacity and vision of how things can be.

As women, we must be the change we want to see in the world. We can see and feel it and help each other to create it.

Our outer world is a reflection of our inner world. When we change ourselves, when we bring more of our authentic, worthy, self-confident selves to the table, we can move mountains and support others to do the same. We are all interconnected.

The key is to start with our inner landscape and make positive changes there. This can feel challenging, and that’s okay. Anything worth having is worth fighting for.

We have been warriors for a long time. It takes courage to be true to ourselves and advocates for change. It takes courage to let go of what hasn’t been working and keep stepping forward.

We don’t have a shortage of courage. We just need the right tools and support to be and do our best, and that includes letting go of the need to be perfect or living our lives based upon the opinions and expectations of others.

When we know what we are moving towards and keep stepping, that’s when the magic happens!

Here’s two simple, life-changing tools that you can apply today, to change how you feel . . . full stop . . . as you do what needs to be done.

 

Key #1: Conscious Connected Breathing

What happens when you feel stressed? When you just remember a deadline due tomorrow? When the school calls because your child is sick and it’s the worst possible time?

Here’s what happens: Fight or flight breathing – short shallow breaths.   Which results in ??? . . . feeling anxious and overwhelmed.

Conscious Connected Breathing can quickly turn this around.  It's simple, easy and doable.

Use Conscious Connected Breathing to help you to relax whenever you start feeling like ##!!?

Better yet – start your day with Conscious Connected Breathing and set your phone alarm to practice it several times during the day.

This is about replacing an old habit with a new one . . . one that helps you to stay grounded and fully present, being that eye in the center of the storm – calm, capable and content.

Click here for the Conscious Connected Breathing formula.

 

Key #2: Eat That Frog

Thanks Brian Tracy. He wrote the book by this title, and it changed my life.

Eat That Frog is simple and easy to apply. Are you ready to stop procrastinating (e.g. ughh, I wish that would go away) and do what needs to be done with calm assurance, grace, ease and flow.

Sound too good to be true? It’s not. It’s just practical, common sense.

What does Eat That Frog mean? It means that you 'eat' the biggest, ugliest, slimiest frog in your in-tray at the beginning of each day. You don’t set it aside until later. You handle it first.

If there’s a phone call you need to make that you wish was already over, make that call before you do anything else.

If you need to prepare for it, do it. If you need to consider how to best handle the conversation, make a few notes. Then take a few deep breaths (or better yet … Conscious Connected Breathing) and make the call.

And, if necessary and prudent, follow up with written confirmation as to the content and agreed up action(s) or what next discussed in the call.

If there’s a report you need to prepare or a document you need to write, breath, get yourself in a calm, centered space, do the research, write down some notes or an outline, ask for inspiration, and just do it!

Then what? Pat yourself on the back and acknowledge yourself. You’ve just eaten the biggest, ugliest, slimiest frog. You didn’t procrastinate or wait until the last minute. Congratulations!

Now, tell yourself that anything else you do today is icing on the cake. It will be nice to accomplish, but it’s not necessary. You did what absolutely had to be done.

With this attitude, and the relief you feel because that frog is NOT hanging over your head, and conscious connected breathing is there to help you when you need it, life can start to feel remarkably different.

It's like resetting your internal clock to inner calm.

And, that helps you to feel more confident and capable because you are connecting with a more relaxed and calm state of being.

AND, it’s inside of you, so you are not looking for anyone or anything else to make it better . . . that’s empowering . . . and, from this relaxed and calm place, you are not trying to get anywhere, you are enjoying the process, the present moment of your life.

It’s like one ripple in the pond is breathing to clear yourself of negativity and relax and the second ripple is stepping towards what you previously would avoid or put off, and handling it in a creative, user-friendly way.

These ripples are cumulative.

The more you practice Conscious Connected Breathing and Eat That Frog, the more they become a part of who you are, the more you turn the tide toward what you would like to experience, the more you appreciate and enjoy your life.

And, if you have any questions about these tools or where to from here, don’t hesitate to text, email or call. We can set up a free meeting with no sales pitches and no strings attached to answer any of your questions and talk about whatever feels relevant to you.

 

 

Arlene Cohen Miller, J.D., P.C.C.      This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.+1 720.936.2634

 

 

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